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What's missing when the standard rules of kink assume everybody's brain works the same way?

In this episode Auntie Vice returns to explore the intersection of BDSM, neurodivergence and mental health — and her new book, Kinky & Complicated.

So much BDSM advice assumes that we can identify exactly what we want, clearly communicate our boundaries and recognise when something changes. But what happens when the way we process sensation, emotion, desire or communication works differently — or changes over time?

We explore:

• How neurodivergence can shape BDSM, kink and desire.
• Why BDSM's explicit rules and negotiations may work particularly well for some neurodivergent people.
• Consent and communication when someone's capacity or mental state changes.
• The impact of medication and menopause on neurodivergence, sexuality and kink.
• Why BDSM can be psychologically beneficial without being therapy.
• The complicated distinction between consensual BDSM pain and self-injury.

Research article: A Preliminary Investigation into Intersections of Sexual Communication in Bondage, Domination, Sadomasochism and Disability.

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Emma

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