Episode Details

You've done the therapy. You've read the books. You've done the work. And you love this person deeply — but every time you're around them you can feel yourself being pulled back into who you used to be.

In this episode Celeste talks about one of the hardest parts of the healing journey — what happens when you love someone who hasn't done the work yet. Whether that's a partner, a parent, a sibling, or a friend — this one is for you.

This isn't about leaving. It's about understanding what's actually happening and how to love someone without losing yourself in the process.

In this episode you'll learn:

• What "not doing the work" actually looks like in the people you love

• What loving an unhealed person does to your nervous system and your growth

• How to love someone without absorbing their unhealed places

• What boundaries look like in this specific dynamic

This episode is for you if:

• You feel yourself shrinking back into old patterns around someone you love

• You feel responsible for managing someone else's emotions

• You're grieving a relationship while you're still in it

• You're trying to figure out how to hold your growth and your love at the same time

Reflection Question:
Where in your relationship are you shrinking your growth to make someone else comfortable — and what would it look like to hold both your love for them and your commitment to yourself at the same time?

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• 365 Days of Intentional Living Journal: Stwyt.com/store

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