Episode Details

You've spent years blaming your mom for your anxious attachment, but what if she's only part of the story?

Girl, I am kicking off a brand new series today and I cannot wait to get into it with you. We're calling it "Attachment Theory Got an Upgrade," because after years of watching this concept get flattened on social media, I wanted to bring you the real, nuanced, research-backed picture, starting with the biggest myth of all: that your attachment style comes entirely from your parents. It doesn't. A massive 30-year longitudinal study followed 705 people from infancy into their thirties, and the findings are about to change how you think about every relationship struggle you've ever had.

Inside the episode:

• Why your relationship with your mother explains some of your attachment style, but far from all of it, and what actually fills in the rest of the picture
• The surprising role your childhood friendships played in shaping how you love today, especially if your parent relationships were genuinely healthy and you're still wondering why romance feels so hard
• My own story of what moving constantly as a kid taught me about self-reliance, staying guarded, and becoming a chameleon, and how that followed me into adulthood

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