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The “But I Have To…” Trap
Description
You look at the list. You look at the calendar. You already know there isn't enough day for what's on there, and somehow the first thing out of your mouth is still "but I have to."
In this conversation, Nikki and Pete follow last week's capacity conversation down to the reflex underneath it. Where does the have-to feeling come from, what is it trying to protect, and what changes when you stop treating every task as though it weighs the same? They get into the five D's from Casey Dixon, why Pete has fallen hard for the one called disappoint, and the difference between deferring something and quietly hoping everyone forgets you agreed to it.
Also: what to do when the list actually is too long and no mindset shift is going to fix it.
Links & Notes
- (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast
- (03:20) - The I Have To Trap
- (19:26) - The Raw Power of Disappoint