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Have you become a supporting character in your own life?

International TEDx speaker, bestselling author, and creator of the Six Selves model Debbie Zita joins Pam to explore how we lose ourselves inside relationships, responsibilities, expectations, and the roles we perform for others.

Together, they discuss recognizing self-abandonment, replacing the inner critic with an inner best friend, seeking wholeness instead of balance, and meeting every part of yourself with compassion. Debbie also leads listeners through a heart-centered practice designed to help us pause, reconnect, and begin coming home to ourselves.

Sometimes growth isn’t about becoming more. Sometimes it’s about remembering who you were before the world told you who to be.

Debbie Zita describes the moment she realized she had outsourced herself to relationships, responsibilities, and roles until she could no longer find herself in the movie of her own life.

In this episode, Pam and Debbie explore:

• What self-abandonment can look like
• Why success doesn’t always create a sense of identity
• Debbie’s Six Selves model of self-inquiry
• Moving from the inner critic to the inner best friend
• Why Debbie stopped seeking balance and began seeking wholeness
• Feeling and welcoming every part of yourself
• Breaking the behavioral loops that keep you stuck
• Mindfulness and heart-centered practices for returning to yourself

🎁 A GIFT FOR LISTENERS

Debbie is inviting listeners to attend one complimentary Monday Meditation and Prioritization session. The 30-minute experience includes a heart-coherence meditation followed by intentional prioritization for the day, week, or month.

Visit Debbie’s website or message her on Instagram to learn more and request your complimentary session.

CONNECT WITH DEBBIE ZITA

Website: https://debbiezita.com/
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/deb_zita

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THE JOURNEY — WEEK 3: BUILDING MOMENTUM
One choice becomes another.

Content note: This episode includes discussion of trauma, grief, suicidal ideation, mental health, and medication as part of the guest’s personal story. Nothing shared in this episode should be considered medical or mental-health advice. Please consult a qualified professional regarding your individual circumstances.

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