Episode Details

Joe Schmid from  ⁨@MajestyofReason⁩ announced that he has returned to Catholicism. As an agnostic/atheist YouTuber who left catholicism, I’ve been thinking about how people should respond when someone leaves their religious or ideological group.

In this video, I lay out my “Ten Commandments” for responding to someone whose beliefs have changed. Drawing from my own experience leaving Catholicism and coming out, I talk about listening before arguing, taking people’s stated reasons seriously, respecting their autonomy, avoiding tribal “wins” and “losses,” and remembering that a person is always more important than the culture war surrounding them.

I’ll have plenty to say about Joe’s arguments for Catholicism in future videos. But before we debate his reasons, I think atheists, Catholics, and everyone else should remember how to treat the person making the decision.

00:00 Joe Schmid Converts
01:06 1: Keep the Person First
02:57 2: Accept Change
04:43 3: Listen Twice
06:17 4: Define Words
07:43 5: Trust Reasons
09:03 6: Limited Knowledge
10:33 7:Lead With Empathy
11:22 8: Respect Autonomy
12:43 9: Stay Connected
14:47 10: Process Privately
16:04 My Next Video

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