Episode Details

In this week’s episode of The Audaci-Tea Podcast, hosts Lisa and Sovereign are asking a question women have been wondering for generations:

Have men ALWAYS been bad in bed?

From the rise of pornography and increasingly extreme sexual expectations to erectile dysfunction among younger men, they dig into why so many men seem to struggle with sexual communication, performance, and prioritizing women's pleasure. They also examine the orgasm gap, household labor inequality, and the ways patriarchal ideas about masculinity can make sex worse for everyone.

Together, they explore why so many men approach sex as a performance or conquest instead of a shared experience, how porn can distort expectations, and why women shouldn't have to settle for disappointing sex.

But first, in Tea Time, Lisa and Sovereign unpack new court records surrounding the Blake Lively and Justin Baldoni lawsuit, react to a viral video of a man condemning gay people only to accidentally reveal that he's bisexual, and discuss Transportation Secretary Sean Duffy's plan to recruit gamers without college degrees as air traffic controllers.

Later, in Tea Or Trash, they discuss women openly expressing regret about motherhood, the science behind cycle syncing, and the impossible expectations placed on women to become the "do-it-all" woman.

🎧 This episode explores the orgasm gap, male sexual dysfunction, pornography, communication, and the patriarchal expectations that can make sex worse for both men and women.

🎙️ Topics Discussed:
• Why men may be so bad at sex and whether it has always been this way
• The orgasm gap, communication, and prioritizing women's pleasure
• Pornography, sexual expectations, and rising erectile dysfunction
• How patriarchy and household inequality affect sexual desire
• Male sexual entitlement, aggression, and the consequences for women
• Motherhood regret, cycle syncing, and the impossible "do-it-all" woman

✨ Links and Resources Mentioned:
Court Record Shows New York Times Story About Blake Lively and Justin Baldoni Was a Lie
https://morewithmj.substack.com/p/for-two-years-we-were-told-the-new

Trump officials want to recruit gamers without college degrees to be air traffic controllers
https://www.businessinsider.com/trump-officials-want-recruit-gamers-air-traffic-controllers-atc-2026-4

Only 65% Of Women Orgasm During Sexual Encounters With Men, vs 95% of Men With Women
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/28213723/

MEN ARE BAD AT SEX BECAUSE THEY ARE BAD AT COMMUNICATION!!
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/30777780/

MEN ARE BAD AT SEX WHEN THEY SUBSCRIBE TO PATRIARCHAL THINKING
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/24558985/

Gender Inequalities In Household Leads To Lower Sexual Desirability
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/36112330/

Erectile Dysfunction Rates Rising Among Young Men
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/40809937/

9/10 Porn Scenes Depict Physical Aggression
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/20980228/

Hostile Masculinity Correlated To Sexual Violence
https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/34227432