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Back to EpisodesIs Undiagnosed ADHD Quietly Driving Your Fights?
Description
You've had the fight about the shoes by the door. The reminder texts. The unfinished closet project. You've talked about it a hundred times, in a hundred different ways, and somehow nothing changes. What if the pattern was never about effort at all?
In this episode, Katie unpacks what's really happening in couples where undiagnosed ADHD is quietly shaping the relationship, even when neither partner has a diagnosis or has ever considered one. Using the story of Tasha and Colin, a couple stuck in a decade long cycle of resentment and guilt, Katie walks through five patterns that show up when ADHD goes unnamed: time blindness, unfinished projects, clutter, forgetting, and the exhausting role of becoming your partner's project manager.
This isn't a symptom checklist and it isn't about diagnosing your partner from the couch. It's about understanding why a pattern repeats no matter how many times you've talked about it, so you can stop guessing at each other's intentions and start building something that actually works for how your brains are wired.
You'll walk away with three concrete tools, including one sentence you can use this week to open the conversation without it turning into an accusation.
Free Conversation Starter Cards for Couples
Couples Goal Setting Workbook
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