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You can be successful, productive and deeply committed to the people you love, and still lose touch with yourself.

Dr. Alexandra Stockwell, widely known as The Intimacy Doctor, joins Pam for a conversation about the small choices that create genuine connection with ourselves and with the people we love.

Alexandra describes recognizing change not through burnout or crisis, but at the level of a "whisper." Nothing was obviously wrong with her life, yet she knew continuing along the same trajectory for decades wasn't what she wanted.

That raises one of the most important questions in this Week 2: CHOOSING conversation:

What do you want?

Pam and Alexandra explore why that question can be surprisingly difficult for high-achieving women who have become experts at knowing what everyone else needs.

They also unpack Alexandra's provocative perspective on compromise: withholding what's true for you may make a moment easier, but over time it can create disconnection. The alternative isn't demanding your way. It's learning to know yourself and communicate your truth with kindness, clarity and connection.

You'll hear about:

• Listening to the whispers before they become a crisis
• Reconnecting with your own wants and desires
• Why compromise can sometimes create disconnection
• Expressing yourself without disregarding your partner
• Creating everyday moments of pleasure and presence
• Why intimacy is a learnable skill
• Journaling and other small practices for reconnecting with yourself

Alexandra is a physician, relationship coach, bestselling author, host of the Intimate Marriage Podcast, and creator of programs and tools designed to help couples build deeper intimacy.

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🌐 Website:
https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/

🎙️ The Intimate Marriage Podcast:
https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/podcast

📸 Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/intimacydoctor/

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https://www.youtube.com/@intimacydoctor

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https://www.tiktok.com/@intimacydoctor

💼 LinkedIn:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/alexandrastockwell/

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Delay the Binge™ explores the patterns behind burnout, Quiet Depletion, reactive coping, and the behaviors we return to even when we know they no longer serve us.

Through emotionally honest conversations and practical insight from experts in neuroscience, psychology, resilience, wellness, leadership, and human behavior, we explore why we do what we do, what happens when stress and depletion take over, and how small intentional choices can begin to change what happens next.

Because lasting change isn’t about getting it right every time. It’s about learning to recognize the pattern, create a pause, and choose your next right move.

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