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What if the behavior you're trying so hard to stop isn't actually the problem?

Dr. Judith Wright calls many of our everyday numbing behaviors “soft addictions”, ordinary activities like scrolling, shopping, eating, working, or watching television that we begin using beyond their usefulness to escape what we're feeling.

And according to Judith, the answer isn't simply more discipline.

You don't have a willpower problem. You may have an unmet yearning problem.

In this Week 2: CHOOSING episode of The Delay the Binge™ Journey, Pam and Judith explore what may actually be happening underneath our automatic behaviors.

Judith explains why we often reach for quick dopamine-driven relief when we're uncomfortable and how those short-lived “wanting” experiences differ from the deeper satisfaction that comes from meeting our real human yearnings, connection, belonging, meaning, safety, being seen, making a difference, and feeling fully alive.

You'll hear about:

• What soft addictions are
• Why willpower alone doesn't create lasting change
• The deeper yearnings underneath automatic behaviors
• How to identify the trigger before a binge
• Why curiosity works better than self-judgment
• The difference between numbing and savoring
• Judith's “math of more”
• How old behaviors can become confused with identity
• Why we're meant to remain in a continual process of becoming

Your habit may not be evidence that something is wrong with you.

It may be information.

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Delay the Binge™ explores the patterns behind burnout, Quiet Depletion, reactive coping, and the behaviors we return to even when we know they no longer serve us.

Through emotionally honest conversations and practical insight from experts in neuroscience, psychology, resilience, wellness, leadership, and human behavior, we explore why we do what we do, what happens when stress and depletion take over, and how small intentional choices can begin to change what happens next.

Because lasting change isn’t about getting it right every time. It’s about learning to recognize the pattern, create a pause, and choose your next right move.

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