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Can jealousy become erotic—and can we have both security and novelty in our relationships?

I'm joined by Ally Iseman from Passport to Pleasure, a certified relationship coach, non-monogamy educator, pleasure advocate and speaker whose work explores how we can create more intentional relationships and more expansive erotic lives.

We explore:

• Erotic jealousy and what happens when jealousy itself becomes part of desire.
• Consensual non-monogamy and how to know whether you're ready to explore it.
• How to talk to a monogamous partner about opening a relationship.
• The tension between security and erotic novelty.
• The mistakes people commonly make when opening relationships.
• Symbiosexuality—the emerging concept of attraction to the energy and dynamic between people in an existing relationship.
• Why designing relationships consciously may require us to question the scripts we've inherited about love.

Research article:  The fewer the merrier?: Assessing stigma surrounding consensually non-monogamous romantic relationships.

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Emma

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