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Divorce Keeping You Up at Night? How to Stop the 2 A.M. Spiral

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If divorce is keeping you awake at night, you're definitely not alone.

You go to bed exhausted, but the second everything gets quiet, your brain decides it's time to solve your entire divorce.

What if my ex is hiding money? What if something happens with the kids? What does that email from my attorney mean? What if this goes to trial? Did I remember to send that document? Should I respond to that text? What if I can't afford this?

Suddenly it's 2:34 a.m., you're wide awake, and you're trying to solve problems that probably cannot be solved from your bed.

In this episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea Rappaport and family law attorney Morgan Stogsdill are talking about divorce anxiety, insomnia and what to do when you can't stop thinking about your divorce at night.

And we're giving you an actual strategy.

Morgan explains how to separate the things that genuinely require action from the things that feel urgent because your anxious brain is filling in the blanks. Andrea shares why losing sleep during divorce can make an already difficult situation worse—and potentially affect the decisions you're making the next day.

The goal isn't to pretend everything is fine.

It's learning to recognize what needs your action—and what needs your inaction.

In This Episode You'll Learn

• Why divorce anxiety can feel so much worse at night
• What to do when you wake up worrying about your divorce
• The pen-and-paper strategy Morgan recommends for getting worries out of your head
• How to determine whether something actually requires action
• Why you should think twice before emailing your divorce attorney late at night
• How to create a running list of questions for your attorney
• Why you should draft—but NOT send—emotional late-night emails
• How late-night texts and emails from your ex can destroy your sleep
• Why setting communication boundaries with your co-parent matters
• How to use OurFamilyWizard notification settings more strategically
• Why sometimes doing absolutely nothing is the smartest action you can take
• What to tell yourself when your brain refuses to shut down
• Why resting can be enough when you can't force yourself to fall asleep
• How changing your environment may help break the cycle when you're lying awake spiraling

The 2 A.M. Divorce Brain Dump

If you wake up in the middle of the night and your brain is racing, Morgan recommends keeping a pen and paper next to your bed.

Write down