Episode Details

Today’s episode is such a special one. You would often hear us banging on about how good the community of our life uncut discussion group is, but the story that you’re about to hear might not only make your week but also be the best example of that community we could ever imagine. 

Deb has been a part of our discussion group since 2022. Back in December 2023, one of our lifers, Deb, posted in the discussion group: she was 35, single, and had just found out her egg count was below the low range. After seven rounds of IVF and still empty handed, she was asking if anyone would consider donating eggs or embryos to help her become a mum. The post got 375 likes and an outpouring of women offering to help.

Today we're sitting down with Deb and her eight-month-old daughter Poppy, who exists because of an embryo donation from another lifer. We talk about the shock of her AMH results, the toll of seven rounds of IVF, finding the "Single Mums By Choice" community, why she chose the Life Uncut discussion group over dedicated donor sites, what it was like juggling multiple potential donors, meeting Poppy's donor family for the first time, and how she plans to talk to Poppy about where she came from. It's a full-circle story about generosity, community and one incredible, hard-won miracle.

TIMESTAMPS 

• 0:00 Intro & Deb's Christmas miracle Facebook post
• 2:15 The AMH shock at age 35
• 4:06 Finding a sperm donor ("sperm tinder")
• 4:27 7 rounds of IVF
• 8:47 Letting go of having a genetic baby
• 9:34 Finding the "Single Mums By Choice" community
• 13:50 Posting in the Life Uncut discussion group
• 21:32 Why the first donor didn't work out
• 22:21 The embryo transfer that finally worked
• 24:16 Meeting Poppy's donor family
• 28:15 How she'll tell Poppy her story one day
• 30:22 The wild coincidence behind Poppy's name
• 31:49 What motherhood alone has really been like
• 34:55 Deb's advice for anyone in the trenches of IVF
  
  

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