Episode Details

• Your ex has said they will not discuss money until parenting is agreed

• You are not sure whether to sort property or parenting first, or both together

• You are separated under one roof and nothing is moving

• You have been handed an offer with a 24-hour deadline and it feels like pressure

• Your ex has suddenly started pushing hard for 50/50 after showing little interest

• You are heading into mediation and want to know what to do if they ambush you

General information only, not legal advice. Australian family law. Always get advice about your own situation.

This episode discusses coercive control and financial abuse. In danger, call 000. Support: 1800 RESPECT 1800 737 732. Lifeline 13 11 14.

"I am not discussing property until parenting is sorted." It sounds like a rule. It is not.

Mum and I unpack whether the order matters, where property and parenting really overlap, the time limits you cannot miss, and the eight stalling tactics we are seeing right now – the hostage swap, the circle walk, the 50/50 care play, the disclosure drip, the attrition strategy, the mediation ambush, the generosity trap and weaponised urgency. Plus the interim property distribution most self-represented people have never heard of.

00:00 – Property or Parenting First? Why Your Ex Wants to Control the Order

02:00 – Where Property and Parenting Actually Collide

04:00 – Why Some Exes Insist on Parenting First

06:00 – When Stalling Becomes Coercive Control and Economic Abuse

07:00 – Property Time Limits: De Facto vs Married Explained

09:00 – Can You Run Property and Parenting Together? Yes

11:00 – Mediation, 60I Certificates and Doing Both at Once

12:00 – Is There Any Good Reason to Keep Them Separate?

15:00 – "Who Died and Made Them Boss?" Taking Back Control

17:00 – Dirty Trick 1: The Hostage Swap

18:00 – The Line That Shuts It Down: "That's Not the Law"

20:00 – The Power Imbalance Test You Can Do Today

22:00 – Dirty Trick 2: The Circle Walk

23:00 – Interim Property Distribution: The Real Circuit Breaker

26:00 – Dirty Trick 3: The 50/50 Care Play

29:00 – Dirty Trick 4: The Disclosure Drip and Section 71B

31:00 – Dirty Trick 5: The Attrition Strategy and Wearing You Down

34:00 – Dirty Trick 6: The Mediation Ambush

36:00 – Filing in Court: Why the Registrar Changes Everything

38:00 – Dirty Trick 7: The Generosity Trap

40:00 – Dirty Trick 8: Weaponised Urgency and Fake Deadlines

42:00 – Sequencing by Personality Type: Which Order Suits Which Ex

44:00 – Rapid Fire: Your Biggest Property and Parenting Questions

47:00 – Rapid Fire for People Already in Court

50:00 – The Double-Sided Cushion: Your Two Sticky Notes

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