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The '40s Formula' for Breaking Cycles of Resentment and Stress | The Forties Formula
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In this episode of The Forties Formula, Jasmin Dhillon and Amanda Lim sit down with Leila Foster, Behaviour Change Strategist and Wellness Architect, to explore why lasting change can be so difficult, even when we genuinely want it.
They explore why our brains return to familiar patterns, how chronic stress affects our ability to change, why expectations create resentment, and how to recognise when a trigger isn't actually about you.
Finally, Leila shares her 40s formula: stop doing what you're told, make micro-adjustments, know your season, hold your paradox, ask for help, and never outsource your decisions.
Chapters:
00:00 — Why knowing isn't enough to create change
02:17 — Your nervous system on a normal Tuesday
04:01 — “Is it about you?”
05:30 — Expectations, stress and resentment
08:17 — The biology of inherited patterns
11:08 — Why knowing isn't the same as changing
11:43 — Stress, the brain and old programming
15:03 — Neuroplasticity and the six pillars of wellness
15:55 — Is the problem the fish or the fish tank?
16:43 — Breaking out of emotional spirals
21:35 — What happens during 9D Breathwork
25:09 — Why the same experience affects us differently
26:32 — When breathwork isn't the answer
28:58 — Divorce and building a blended family
31:40 — Finding a healthier relationship dynamic
35:05 — Sharing the parenting load
39:16 — Running a business with your spouse
42:20 — Working together when you're fighting
44:15 — The calendar invite that can save a relationship
45:54 — Why “we'll talk tomorrow” doesn't work
47:00 — Leila's 40s Formula
47:07 — Stop doing what you're told
48:10 — Embrace the micro-adjustments
48:50 — Balance isn't 50/50
50:13 — Become a student of your own body
51:07 — Hold your paradox
52:13 — Ask for help and don't outsource your decisions
About our guest
Leila Foster is a Behaviour Change Strategist and Wellness Architect working at the intersection of behaviour change, wellness and nervous-system regulation. She helps people understand the patterns that keep them stuck and create lasting change.
About your hosts
Jasmin Dhillon is an Integrated Health Strategist and Health Coach helping women in their 40s navigate gut health, hormones and nutrition.
https://www.instagram.com/eat.with.jasmin/
Amanda Lim is a Metabolic Health Coach focused on helping women build strength, confidence and long-term health.
https://www.instagram.com/coachamanda/
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