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Back to EpisodesCan same sex attraction be changed?
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The question “Can same-sex attraction change?” is rarely just curiosity. It usually carries fear: “Will I ever be able to marry?” “Is this who I am?” “If this shows up again, does that mean God isn’t working?” Josh sits down with Kyle Bowman and Greg Ruhland from Regeneration to talk honestly about change, discipleship, and what a hopeful, grounded Christian perspective can look like when you’re tired of shame and exhausted from trying to white-knuckle your way into freedom.
Kyle shares her personal journey from years of same-sex relationships to a slow reorientation of desire that comes from pursuing Jesus daily, not chasing a perfect internal state. Greg shares his story of early shame, pornography, and the long work of learning to “replace lust with love,” brick by brick. Along the way, we talk about tenderness, confession without condemnation, and why God’s kindness can meet you even when you feel like you brought the pain on yourself.
We also break the conversation into practical categories: behavior, identity, and desires. We unpack why desire can function like a “check engine light,” how identity labels can shrink a person’s full story, and why community and the Holy Spirit matter for real change. If you’re wrestling with unwanted desires, sexual temptation, or fear about your future, you’ll walk away with language, next steps, and hope that doesn’t depend on a single moment.
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Resources from this episode:
- Regeneration spiritual coaching - Men | Women
- Awaken men’s retreat
- Sacred by Design women’s retreat
- Growth into Manhood by Alan Medinger
- Unwanted by Jay Stringer
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