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Back to EpisodesAlison Armstrong 3.0: Sex, Shame, and What He Fears Most | #203
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Men Aren't Misbehaving in Bed. They're Terrified of Failing You. Alison Armstrong is back for round three, and if you have followed her work on understanding men since 1991, you already know she has a gift for making male behavior finally make sense. If this is your first time meeting her, buckle up, because she is about to change how you think about every man in your life. In this episode, Leah Piper and Dr. Willow Brown sit down with Alison for a raw, funny, and genuinely eye opening conversation about why so many men quietly give up on sex as they get older, and it has almost nothing to do with wanting you less.
EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS
- Men often quit sex due to shame after erectile dysfunction, not because their desire for their partner has faded.
- Shame is worse than emasculation because it disconnects a man from his own spirit, while emasculation only affects his sense of productivity.
- Sexual feedback lands best as gentle, judgment free clues rather than direct criticism, what Alison calls the warmer, colder, hot approach.
- Many men experience direct questions as interrogation, so framing feedback as an invitation, like asking permission to share favorite moments, respects their need for productivity and control.
- Alison's new concept, the ever presence of death, reveals how men's quiet awareness of mortality shapes their drive for purpose, protection, and honor in relationships.
LINKS & RESOURCES MENTIONED IN THE EPISODE CAN BE FOUND ON THE WEBSITE: http://sexreimagined.com/alison-armstrong-why-men-stop-having-sex
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