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40 Rape, Incest, Shame, and Silence: A True Story Reexamined, Part 1

Episode 40 Published 5 years, 5 months ago
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  1. Intro: Welcome to the podcast Coronavirus Crisis: Carpe Diem!, where by God’s grace, you and I rise up and embrace the possibilities and opportunities for spiritual and psychological growth in this time of crisis, all grounded in a Catholic worldview.   We are going beyond mere resilience, to rising up to the challenges of this pandemic and becoming even healthier in the natural and the spiritual realms than we were before.  I’m clinical psychologist Peter Malinoski and I am here with you, to be your host and guide.  This podcast is part of Souls and Hearts, our online outreach at soulsandhearts.com, which is all about shoring up our natural foundation for the Catholic spiritual life, all about overcoming psychological obstacles to being loved and to loving.  
    1. This is episode 40, released on November 2, 2020 -- we made it to forty together.   
    2. Thank you for being here with me.  
    3. Steep learning curve -- starting to find my groove now, not nearly as rough and awkward as when I started.  
    4. and it is the fourth episode in our series on shame.  
    5. and it is titled: Rape, Incest, Shame, and Silence: A True Story Reexamined, Part 1
    6. This is the first of three or four highly experiential episodes -- these episodes are opportunities for experiential learning -- to learn a lot about yourself and your history.  
    7. Pushing the envelope of what is possible for learning from our experiences in an interactive podcast.  
  2. Review
     
    1. Series on shame is vitally important. 
      1. Most people can't define shame -- if we can't put what shame is into words adequate, we can't think about it clearly, we can't engage our intellect and our will
      2. Deficits even in experts' definitions -- they can be very incomplete -- even Brene Brown's definitions are incomplete
      3. Really critical to understand what shame and guilt are and what they cause, what they do to us.  More than just natural life and death -- also spiritual life and death.  

    1. We have been really exercising our deductive reasoning skills so far in this series on shame.
       
      1. Deductive reasoning
         
        1. Start by understanding basic principles and general concepts 

        1. And reasoning from those, arrives at specific observations and conclusions
           
          1. Top down approach
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          1. Starting from the general, and getting down to specifics
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        1. Clarified definitions of shame and guilt -- really necessary
           
          1. Three episodes ago, in episode 37, we introduced shame as the silent killer who stalks us from within
             
            1. Defined shame -- I drew from many sources
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            1. Conceptual exploration -- understanding a much more complete picture of shame as not only an emotion, but also a bodily response, a signal, a self-judgement and an  action. 


          1. Two episodes ago in episode 38, I invited you to see the signs of shame in yourself and others, to recognize shame in ourselves and in others, becoming better able to detect it, because shame very often, almost always, remains hidden and unrecognized from what it really is.     

          1. Last episode, Episode 39 we discussed shame and guilt conceptually -- multifaceted aspects of guilt, three aspects -- guilt as a moral state, guilt as a legal state and guilt as an emotion. 
            1. Comparing and contrasting shame and guilt -- conceptual distinctions




    1. But a lot of us struggle to learn that way -- with deductive reasoning, staring with generalities and drawing specific conclusions from them.  Seems so intellectual, so conceptual, it can be hard for some of us to see it --   
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