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The Name Above Every Name
Conference Three
The Broken Heart and the Descent into the Heart Learning to Stand Before God

“The sacrifice acceptable to God is a broken spirit; a broken and contrite heart, O God, Thou wilt not despise.”
— Psalm 51:17

There comes a moment in every authentic spiritual life when we discover that we cannot pray as we imagined we would.

We begin with generous resolutions. We set aside time.
We struggle to be faithful.
We seek recollection.

Yet gradually another discovery is made.
The deepest obstacle to prayer is not distraction. It is ourselves.
Not because we are evil.
But because our hearts have become divided. Part of us longs for God.
Another part clings to the world.
Part of us desires silence.
Another part fears it.
Part of us seeks Christ.

Another part still wishes to preserve itself. Prayer slowly uncovers this division.
Not to discourage us.
But to heal us.

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Archimandrite Zacharias often says that the purpose of the spiritual life is not simply to become moral.

It is to acquire a heart capable of standing before the living God. That is a very different thing.
Many people imagine holiness as flawless behavior.
The saints speak instead of relationship.

A man may appear outwardly blameless while never allowing God near his heart.

Another may come before God in tears, unable even to lift up his eyes, and return home justified.

The difference is not perfection.
It is truth.
God can only fill the heart that has ceased pretending.
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This is why repentance occupies such a central place in the Jesus Prayer. “Have mercy on me.”
These words are not born of self-hatred.
Nor are they the cry of someone obsessed with guilt.
They are the language of love.

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Only someone who has glimpsed the beauty of Christ can grieve over the ways he has turned from Him.

Repentance is therefore not primarily looking at ourselves. It is looking at Christ.
His light reveals everything.
Not harshly.

Tenderly.
Like the rising sun that slowly illumines a valley still covered in morning mist. Nothing is forced.
Everything is revealed in love.
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The Fathers distinguish between remorse and repentance.
Remorse circles endlessly around itself.
Repentance turns toward God.
Remorse says,
“I have failed.”
Repentance says,
“Lord, have mercy.”
Remorse ends in discouragement.
Repentance opens the door to hope.
This distinction is essential.
Many sincere Christians carry burdens Christ never asked them to carry.

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They believe continual self-accusation is humility.
It is not.
True humility forgets itself because it has become absorbed in Christ. The humble man knows his poverty.
But he knows God’s mercy even more.
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Archimandrite Zacharias writes often about standing before God. This expression appears again and again.
It is wonderfully simple.
Prayer is not first speaking.
Nor thinking.
Nor even feeling.
Prayer is standing.
Standing before the Face of Christ.
Standing in truth.
Standing in poverty.
Standing in hope.
Everything else gradually unfolds from this.
Sometimes words disappear.
Sometimes thoughts become quiet.
Sometimes only tears remain.

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The Fathers are not disturbed by this.
The heart has begun to speak.
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One of the greatest gifts God grants us is the knowledge of our own weakness. Strangely, we usually resist this gift.

We prefer strength.
Competence.
Success.
Spiritual progress.
God often gives something different. He allows us to encounter ourselves. Not to humiliate us.

But to make us truthful.
Without this knowledge, compassion remains shallow.
We judge others because we have never seen oursel