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Back to EpisodesWhy You Don't Know Who You Are After Complex Trauma
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If you've ever caught yourself wondering who you actually are underneath the anxiety, the people pleasing, or the version of you that shows up to keep everyone else comfortable, this episode is for you.
I break down what a sense of self actually is, why complex trauma gets in the way of building one, and what it looks like to start forming it now, as an adult. That means looking at three capacities trauma tends to disrupt: knowing yourself, expressing yourself, and experiencing yourself, and a few grounded, body-based ways to start reconnecting with each one.
In this episode:
- What a sense of self actually is, and why it's built through experience, not something you're born with fully formed
- Why survival responses like fight, flight, freeze, or fawning aren't fixed personality traits, they're predictions your nervous system learned to keep you safe
- The three capacities complex trauma most often disrupts: knowing yourself, expressing yourself, and experiencing yourself
- Why healing this is often less about finding yourself and more about forming yourself
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