Episode Details

How do you build the world's largest BDSM community?

In this episode I chat down with John Baku, the founder of FetLife, to explore the psychology behind one of the most influential platforms in modern kink.

We explore:

• How FetLife was created.
• The psychology of building online communities.
• Why belonging is so important for kinky people.
• The future of FetLife and BDSM education.
• Community safety, moderation, and transparency.
• Advice for people joining FetLife for the first time.

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Stay perverted,

Emma

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