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Description
The hardest part of healing is realizing you’re still alive, but you’ve been slowly disappearing. Trish Lacy launches Unerased with the stories that come after her memoir Erased in My Home and puts words to an experience many people can’t quite name: the quiet erosion of self-trust that happens when you keep the peace at the cost of yourself.
We talk about the “driveway moment” when you sit in the car, not scrolling or resting, just trying to gather the strength to walk back into your own life. Therapy helps Trish translate that silence into grief and gives her a question that cracks the foundation: “When did you learn that love had to be earned?” From marriage to career to friendships, we trace how believing you must be useful to be valuable can shape every relationship, and why understanding your trauma still isn’t the same as healing it.
Motherhood brings the turning point into focus. Trish shares how her daughter’s autism and ADHD diagnosis pushes her into research mode, only to learn a deeper truth: you can’t think your way through what has to be felt. We unpack emotional regulation, tears as repair, and the surprising freedom of stopping the endless fixing. The episode closes with a powerful metaphor, a wedding on Independence Day, and a redefinition of independence as reclaiming your voice and worth.
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