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Back to Episodes136 | Still Thinking About Him After Going No Contact? Here's What Your Brain Is Actually Doing
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You cut contact. You're doing the work. And he's still showing up in your head! Uninvited, frustrating, relentless. Today I'm giving you the neuroscience behind why that's happening, and a practical framework for what to do when it does. This is a part 2 to EP 123 on limerence, and it goes deeper into two specific brain mechanisms: the Default Mode Network and attachment protest behavior.
We explore:
- What the Default Mode Network is and why your idle moments are when the thoughts are loudest
- Attachment protest behavior and why cutting contact can actually make the longing feel stronger before it gets quieter
- Why certain triggers fire the thought even when you've been doing well
- The shift from shame to curiosity: asking "what does this thought tell me about what I need right now?" instead of "why can't this stop?"
- Practical tools for the idle moments
Next time the thought arrives, pause and ask, what does this tell me about what I need right now? Write it down. That's where healing starts. 🕊️
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