Episode Details

Coercive Control While Separated Under One Roof: How to Survive It | The Divorce Course Podcast (Part 2)

🎧 LISTEN IF YOU…

• Are separated but still stuck under one roof

• Were told you "can't leave" without a parenting plan

• Suspect you're being watched through cameras, phone or car

• Are scared to move money or make a move

• Want to plan a safe exit and set real boundaries

⚠️ General education only — not legal or psychological advice. Discusses coercive control, financial & tech abuse. In danger, call 000. Support: 1800 RESPECT (1800 737 732), Lifeline 13 11 14.

Part 2 of our six-part coercive control series with clinical psychologist Krasi Kirova and Family Law Specialist Lyn Galvin, all about surviving it while you're still in it.

00:00 – Separated but Stuck Under One Roof: You're Not Alone

01:00 – Six-Part Series, Guest Krasi Kirova & How to Send Questions

02:00 – Meet Krasi Kirova & Lyn Galvin

03:00 – Legal & Family Violence Disclaimer

04:00 – Does Coercive Control Continue After Separation? (Sally's Question)

05:00 – The Three Ds: Disrespect, Disempowerment, Distortion

06:00 – Why They Won't Move Out — The New Under-One-Roof Tactic

07:00 – Is Separation Under One Roof Required? Davis & Davis (Sarah's Question)

08:00 – "Can You Make Them Leave?" + When Your Ex Makes Up the Law

10:00 – DARVO Explained + Why Placating Doesn't Work (Nini's Question)

12:00 – How to Prove Escalating Abuse + Judges Are Trained

13:00 – Chronologies as Evidence + The Three-Year "Separation" Trap (Anonymous)

15:00 – The Stuck Feeling Is Entrapment — You Can Leave Without a Plan

17:00 – Cameras, Doorbells & Surveillance In Your Own Home (Loans' Question)

19:00 – Tech-Facilitated Abuse: 70% Is Everyday Tech + The Omnipresence Effect

20:00 – Is My Car Being Tracked? AirTags, Apps & What to Do (Marie's Question)

22:00 – Removing Tech Safely: Order Matters, Sweepers & Bluetooth

24:00 – When Your Ex Uses the Kids to Spy (She Bear's Question)

26:00 – Talking to Your Child About Privacy + Family Reports

28:00 – Krasi's Call-Out: Share Your Voice for the Psychology Conference

31:00 – Moving Money Without Awakening the Bear (JT's Question)

33:00 – Getting Your Ducks in a Row: The Safest Way to Leave

36:00 – 21 Years In — How Do I Announce I'm Leaving? (Tash's Question)

37:00 – The Shark Analogy: Why "Nicely" Doesn't Change the Reaction

38:00 – "You Moved Money Without My Consent" — Financial Control (Jessie's Question)

40:00 – Boundaries vs Buffers: Why Boundaries Can Backfire (Anonymous)

44:00 – Parenting Apps, Grey Rocking & the Three Anchors

45:00 – Legal Abuse, Comeuppance & the 14% Uplift Case

46:00 – Intervention Orders + A House-Sharing Idea for the Stuck

🎧 EPISODES MENTIONED

Can You Make Them Leave? — https://youtu.be/_XAG5c1hOkU

Tech-Facilitated Abuse (WESNET SafetyNet Australia) — https://youtu.be/rc8b27R_k9k

The Three Anchors with Sonia Bestulic — https://youtu.be/aHULu7ffPj4

Capturing Coercive Control in an Affidavit — https://youtu.be/SIyXCGXH5nw

🔗 RESOURCES

1800 RESPECT 1800 737 732 | Lifeline 13 11 14 | Police 000

The Divorce Course — www.thedivorcecourse.com.au

Free Before-You-Go Checklist & Tech App Worksheet — www.thedivorcecourse.com.au

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