Episode Details

In this episode of Relatable Wisdom, I’m joined by Deborah Moffatt, host of The Healing Version Podcast, who unpacks the powerful mantra: “You cannot heal what you refuse to feel.” Deborah shares the deeply personal journey that gave rise to this insight, reflecting on her upbringing and the process of forgiving her parents for the stability and protection she felt was missing in childhood. We dive into what it really means to “feel” our pain, exploring the difference between numbing, denial, and actually facing our wounds head-on. Deborah opens up about her own healing work around abandonment issues and details the active steps she’s taken toward growth, including therapy, journaling, and self-accountability. Listeners will come away with a timely reminder that healing isn’t passive—time alone doesn’t mend our pain; it’s intentional action that makes the difference. This conversation is a must-listen for anyone searching for guidance through emotional hurdles or seeking the courage to feel and heal.

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Connect With Deborah Moffatt
Website: https://thehealingversion.com

Chapters
00:00 Introduction And Welcome
00:23 Meet Deborah Moffatt
00:42 Sharing The Favorite Quote
01:04 Childhood Story And Forgiveness
01:44 What “Feel To Heal” Means
03:03 Mindset And Language In Healing
05:26 Differentiating Feeling From Agonizing
06:32 Deborah On Facing Abandonment
08:24 The Role Of Therapy And Journaling
10:07 Accountability And Denial
11:05 Denial In Everyday Conversation
11:34 Family Dynamics And Avoidance
12:13 Physical Impact Of Unaddressed Emotions
12:46 The Myth Of Time Healing All Wounds
13:46 The Healing Analogy
15:05 Deborah’s Podcast And Its Mission
16:08 Family Dysfunction And Gossip
17:57 Speaking Boldly And Accountability
19:58 Bad Behavior And Making Excuses
20:55 Why People Lash Out
21:16 Where To Listen And Subscribe
22:30 Closing And Farewell