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Fan Mail: Tell Wendy how you're saying yes to yourself!

In this episode, Wendy sits down with Cara Lockwood, a USA Today bestselling author. When Cara was diagnosed with breast cancer, she discovered something unexpected: you don't have to be positive to be strong. You can fight cancer salty, sarcastic, and real. In this conversation, she talks about the power of authenticity, the mythology of toxic positivity, and why the universe responds to your vibration, not your words.

They explore:

• Why vulnerability isn't weakness, and how being honest about fear, anger, and overwhelm is actually the strongest choice you can make
• You still get to decide: how to maintain agency and power even when crisis feels like it's driving the bus
• Focus as a superpower: how intentionally looking for joy (an English muffin with jam or a cup of tea) grounds you and helps change what's possible

Cara's whole philosophy is about refusing to choose between authenticity and strength. You don't have to fake positivity to access joy. You don't have to deny the hard thing to focus on what you love. What matters is your vibration, your focus, and your willingness to stay real about where you are while choosing what brings you alive. That's how you keep your power: not by pretending everything's fine, but by refusing to let the hard thing be the only thing.

Connect with Cara:

CaraTheAuthor.com

Her Books: caratheauthor.com/author

Instagram: instagram.com/cara.the.author

LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/cara-tanamachi-lockwood-benoit-563b5040

Referenced in this Episode:

A Course in Miracles (Wendy's favorite links):

• apps.apple.com/us/app/acim-remind/id737568020
• amazon.com/Course-Miracles-Combined-Quality/dp/1883360242?tag=syty-20
• marianne.com/acim/

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