Episode Details

As a recovering perfectionist and former competitive athlete, it feels so weird for our host, Diane Rolston, to say, “Winning isn't everything.”

If you've ever wanted something so badly that the outcome became the only thing that mattered, this episode is for you.

She shares a conversation sparked by her son's sports seasons that turned into a powerful lesson about the difference between results-based and process-based goals and why one might be quietly stealing your joy.

Listen to learn these key takeaways:

• The car ride home after a loss: what her son said when Diane asked if he had fun and the important conversation it opened up
• Why results-based goals can be incredibly motivating but also set you up for something most high achievers don't see coming
• The emerging artist showcase story: how one small change to the prize structure completely transformed Diane's experience and what it revealed about pressure and performance
• The factor that results-based goals can never account for
• What process-based goals actually look like in business: the shift from "did the launch work?" to something far more empowering and within your control
• Why the coach's comment to one player after the loss stood out more than anything else that day
• How to apply this to health, love, finances, and business goals and why you don't have to choose between the two
• The Olympic training question: if you're only motivated by the gold medal, what happens to the four years in between?
• The powerful reframe for your next launch, sales call, or event registration and why the numbers aren't the only measure of success
• One question to sit with: What would still make you proud even if the result doesn't go your way?

The real win might be who you become in the process. This week, choose one process goal you can control, and if you get the result, that's just icing on the cake.

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This show’s host, Diane Rolston, is called THE Expert on Being Dynamic and living a Dynamic Life. She specializes in coaching high-achieving women who want to be successful AND satisfied. She is a Certified Professional Coach, International Speaker, 11-time Author, and host of the five-time award-winning Dynamic Women Podcast, ranked in the top 2.5% of podcasts.

Diane has been recognized with multiple awards for her professional accomplishments and for the powerful impact she has on the women she inspires and empowers. Chicken Soup for the Soul co-creator Jack Canfield describes her as “an amazing woman” doing “incredible work helping women develop holistic lives of balance.”

Through her program, VA Made Easy, she helps entrepreneurs go from task overwhelm to business ease by hiring and training Virtual Assistants for them while also providing proven systems, processes, and strategies for success.

Outside of her work, Diane is a mother of two, a soccer player, and a stand-up comedy rookie, always embracing new challenges and personal growth.