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Jacqueline & Japheth | A Girl and a Gay

What happens when a metropolitan girly from New York and LA meets a Nashville-born gay man at a summer party — and they become instant best friends? Magic. Content. And a whole lot of tea.

Zach sits down with Jacqueline and Japheth, the creators behind the TikTok account A Girl and a Gay, for one of the most wide-ranging, real-talk conversations the show has had in a while. These two met just a year ago through a mutual friend, and they've already built a growing platform giving dating advice to thousands of followers — from real DMs about heartbreak, ghosting, and whether a guy actually likes you.

In this episode:

• How Jacqueline and Japheth met at a Nashville party and became instant best friends (what Japheth calls a "clandestine union of sorts")
• Jacqueline's move from New York and LA to Nashville — and why she traded city life for something more peaceful
• What the gay dating scene in Nashville is actually like: close-knit, warm, but also complicated when everyone knows everyone
• Ghosting, catfishing, and love bombing — why ghosting may be more psychologically damaging than outright rejection
• How to make friends as an adult (including Zach's Out Close dinner experience in Boston)
• Being gay in a red state: Japheth's experience growing up out in Tennessee and why he cries every year at Nashville Pride
• The origin of A Girl and a Gay — how a single TikTok video blew up and turned into a movement
• Why their DMs started filling up with real relationship questions when they still had under 1,000 followers
• Skincare secrets (shoutout to Revision Skincare and IT Cosmetics CC cream)
• And the conversation every aspiring podcaster needs to hear about patience, persistence, and not going in with expectations

Connect with Jacqueline & Japheth:

• TikTok: @agirlAndAGay (combined account) https://www.tiktok.com/@a.girl.and.a.gay
• Plus their individual TikTok and Instagram accounts —  
• https://www.tiktok.com/@japhethfranco
• https://www.tiktok.com/@itsjacqs
• https://www.instagram.com/japheth__franco/

Everything & Anything…and a Bit Gay is hosted by Zach Randles-Friedman. New episodes drop regularly. Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with someone who needs it.

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