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Wounded Angels: Inner Child Work, Codependency, and Healing with David Deane Haskell

Host Jesse Deal welcomes listeners to the Trauma Unbound Podcast and introduces guest David Deane Haskell, joining from Japan, author of Wounded Angels, who shares his trauma and recovery journey through inner child/parts work despite not being an IFS practitioner. David describes long-term self-hatred, addiction recovery via 12-step, therapy and hospitalizations, and learning to sit quietly with overwhelming feelings, emphasizing self-care and boundaries. He recounts a core childhood trauma: his mother died when he was four and he was told at nine she died by suicide, leading to intense shame; decades later a toxic, codependent relationship and betrayal re-triggered this wound and catalyzed deeper healing and compassion for his “shame-shocked” nine-year-old self. David also discusses his late-2024 divorce, a recent healing moment with his ex-wife and daughter, nomad travel, and a concussion/vertigo episode that led him to stay in Japan, which he links to inner child trust and resistance. He previews a second book, Inner Child Unleashed, and reflects on vulnerability, grief, publishing disappointments, spirituality, and the value of lived experience and connection.

00:00 Podcast Welcome

00:58 Meet David Haskell

01:50 Inner Child Origins

03:59 The Planner Part

05:28 Sitting With Self

06:58 Mindfulness Breakthrough

11:40 Feeling Pain Safely

16:56 Self Care Balance

19:45 Codependency Roots

22:20 Shame Shocked Boy

28:22 Healing Through Reframing

30:40 Trust And Betrayal

33:21 Boundaries Without Blame

34:28 Grace Over Perfection

34:53 Reframing Boundaries

36:39 Fawn Response Patterns

38:18 Divorce And Nomad Life

41:35 Concussion Wake Up Call

45:19 Second Book Update

49:14 Writing As Healing

54:54 Publishing Rejection Grief

59:56 Integrity And Synchronicity

01:00:46 Drumming Comeback Story

01:02:57 Closing Gratitude

David's Website:  https://daviddeanehaskell.com

Wounded Angels Book:  https://daviddeanehaskell.com/books

David's Inner Child Journal Substack:  https://innerchildjournal.substack.com

Email me:  Jesse@traumaunboundcoaching.com

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