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Why I Call You “My Love” (And Why I'm Not Stopping)
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Tenderoni Hotline #36: A listener recently wrote in with a request: please stop calling your audience "my love/my beauty."
In this episode, I respond to that message and explore the deeper questions underneath it. Why do terms of endearment feel comforting to some people and uncomfortable to others? What happens when trauma teaches us that closeness, care, or tenderness are things to be wary of? And at what point does healing ask us to move beyond avoiding discomfort and begin building safety from within?
We dive into the relationship between nervous system regulation, emotional outsourcing, trauma recovery, and self-trust. I also share why calling people "my love" is not a branding decision or a marketing strategy, but an authentic expression of who I am, my culture, and the kind of world I want to help create.
If you've ever struggled to receive kindness, felt suspicious of tenderness, or found yourself looking outside yourself for safety, worth, or belonging, this episode offers a compassionate invitation to get curious about those patterns.
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