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Back to EpisodesWhy Swiss Philosopher Alain de Botton Says We're All Terrible at Love
Published 3 weeks, 5 days ago
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What if everything you believe about love is actually making you lonelier? Swiss philosopher Alain de Botton drops a truth bomb: our romantic expectations, rooted in 18th-century Romanticism, are sabotaging modern relationships. In this eye-opening episode, Adrian Wells breaks down why we're failing at love and what actually works.
🎯 What You'll Learn:
• Why Romanticism created impossible relationship standards (and how it's still hurting us today)
• The real reason 70% of couples fight about the same issues over and over
• How relationship education cuts divorce rates by 30% and what those couples know that others don't
• De Botton's "good enough" partner theory that could save your relationship
👤 Perfect for: lifelong learners and anyone who's ever wondered why modern dating feels so broken (spoiler: it's not just you).
📍 Chapters:
[00:00] Adrian Wells introduces the love paradox
[01:45] How Romanticism ruined realistic expectations
[04:20] Why most relationship fights aren't about what you think
[07:10] The psychology behind feeling unheard in relationships
[09:30] De Botton's "good enough" partnership model
[11:15] Practical steps to become a better partner today
This isn't another "love yourself first" pep talk. It's a philosophical deep dive into why our culture set us up to fail at the thing we want most, plus actual tools to fix it.
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🔍 Topics: relationships, philosophy, Alain de Botton, modern love, psychology
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