Episode Details

Doug begins Part 1 of looking into childhood attachment wounds and how they can negatively impact your marriage.

Listener questions and comments:

• Natalie - How can I create a secure attachment style in friendship? (38:29)
• Julia - What is advice for a couple when one of them has problems and they blame the other? (46:58)

Resources:

Emotionally Focused Therapy

https://iceeft.com/

Secure attachment style

1. Ability to regulate your emotions
2. Easily trust others
3. Effective communication skills
4. The ability to seek emotional support
5. You are comfortable being alone
6. Comfortable in close relationships
7. Ability to self-reflect
8. Easy to connect with
9. Ability to manage conflict well
10. High self-esteem
11. Ability to be emotionally available

Avoidant attachment style

1. Persistently avoid emotional or physical intimacy
2. Strong sense of independence
3. Uncomfortable expressing your feelings
4. Tendency to be dismissive of others
5. Difficulty trusting others
6. Tend to be threatened by people getting to close
7. Spend more time alone
8. They believe they don’t need others
9. Tendency to have commitment issues