Episode Details

Divorce Mediation: Why Preparation Matters More than you Think

Most people approach divorce mediation with one thought:

"I have to do this."

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In this mini episode of How Not to Suck at Divorce, Andrea Rappaport explains why mediation can actually be one of the most valuable opportunities you'll have during your divorce—and how proper preparation can save you time, money, stress, and frustration.

Too many people walk into mediation without a clear strategy, without understanding what they want, and without discussing realistic outcomes with their attorney. The result? Missed opportunities, wasted time, and unnecessary conflict.

Andrea breaks down exactly how to prepare for mediation, what questions to ask your attorney, and why mediation should be viewed as an opportunity to move closer to your goals—not just another frustrating step in the divorce process.

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In This Episode, We Discuss:

• Why mediation is often misunderstood during divorce
• The biggest mistake people make before mediation
• Why preparation is critical to successful mediation
• How to identify what you actually want from the process
• Creating a mediation strategy with your attorney
• Understanding realistic outcomes before you walk into the room
• How to anticipate what your spouse may ask for
• Why mediation can provide valuable information—even if no agreement is reached
• The importance of choosing the right mediator
• How mindset impacts divorce outcomes

Key Takeaways

✔️ Mediation gives you more control than having a judge decide for you

✔️ Showing up unprepared can cost you valuable opportunities

✔️ You should clearly define your goals before mediation begins

✔️ Work with your attorney to develop a negotiation strategy

✔️ Ask your attorney for best-case, worst-case, and most likely outcomes

✔️ Even unsuccessful mediation can provide valuable information

✔️ Mindset matters—view mediation as an opportunity, not a punishment

✔️ The more prepared you are, the better positioned you'll be to advocate for yourself and your children

Questions to Ask Your Attorney Before Mediation

• Is what I want realistic?
• What steps will help us get there?
• What do you think the other side is likely to ask for?
• What is the best-case scenario?
• What is the worst-case scenario?
• What is the most likely outcome?
• What concessions or "sweeteners" might help move negotiations forward?
• What should I expect during the mediation process?

About the Hosts

Andrea Rappaport is a comedian, marketer, divorce survivor, and co-host of How Not to Suck at Divorce. Through humor, honesty, and practical advice, Andrea helps people navigate divorce with more confidence and less fear.

Morgan L. Stogsdill is Head of Family Law at Beermann LLP and brings legal insight and real-world family law experience to every episode.

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