Episode Details

In this episode of Based Camp, we explore the recent wave of anti-marriage feminist influencers who suddenly get engaged and/or pregnant right after hitting 30. Is “anti-marriage” feminism just mate-blocking by other means? Or is it sour grapes from women who spent their 20s steeped in hookup culture?

We explore:

• The hypocrisy of prominent “stay single” influencers (MJ Gray, Alex Cooper, Wizard Liz, Danielle Walter, etc.)

• Why feminism’s biggest “wins” have mostly hurt women

• The collapse in marriage rates (especially by age 30)

• Mate blocking vs. status denial

• The hollowness of modern hookup/OnlyFans culture and the return to meaning

Get ready for a spicy and honest conversation about dating, marriage, female nature, and cultural trends.

Show Notes

What happened:

* An influencer named MJ Gray branded herself as strongly anti‑marriage and anti‑kids, framing marriage as “enslavement” and something women should avoid because it primarily benefits men and the patriarchy.

* She built a following of nearly 500,000 on TikTok by creating anti-marriage content, often arguing that marriage signifies the “ownership of women” and advising women to avoid it.

* After about nine months of dating a man with no public profile, she announces an engagement in a visibly uncomfortable video titled “Yes, I’m engaged. Yes, this is awkward,” while repeatedly insisting she is “in a good situation.”

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* She claims her stance has always included caveats: marriage can make sense if you plan to have children, share property, or live together, but otherwise it remains a harmful institution.

It turns out she is not the only influencer of the stay single movement who turned around and got married. There are other recent and prominent examples that might indicate some sort of pattern.

This comes at a time when marriage REALLY doesn’t need negative propaganda. Around 2005–2010, roughly 50–55% of adults were married; by the mid-2020s, it’s around 46–51% (e.g., 47.1% of households headed by married couples in 2024, near historic lows).

So what’s going on with women like these? Let’s explore and discuss.

MJ Gray’s Branding

MJ Gray frames herself as a supermodel billionaire (that’s her handle on YouTube)

Has 419K followers on tiktok (@texasgardenfairy)

Has 84.6K followers on Instagram

She shares her thoughts on “The Maneater Podcast”

4.9 stars and 44 reviews on spotify (for reference, Based Camp has 3.8 stars and 205 reviews)

4.9 stars and 9 reviews on Apple Podcasts (for reference, Based Camp has 4.4 stars at 153 reviews)

MJ Gray’s YouTube model is @supermodelbillionaire: https://www.youtube.com/@supermodelbillionaire

8.46K subscribers, 65 videos

Things she says:

* Men should always pay for women because…

* Men are women’s apex predator

* Women’s time is more valuable than men’s time (because their attractive and fertile years are limited)

* Engaging with men is dangerous as you could get pregnant, get an infection

* Women’s presence and attention is more valuable than men’s attention (men spend more on strip clubs and exotic dancers… though apparently she does not kno