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Parenting doesn’t need to swing between being overly strict and overly permissive. When you understand what’s driving your child’s behaviour, everything becomes clearer, calmer, and more manageable.

I am talking to psychotherapist and parenting coach Todd Sarner about transformative parenting and how to raise resilient, emotionally secure children. We cover attachment, boundaries, emotional regulation, and how small shifts in your approach can reduce daily struggles and create more connection at home.

Todd and I talk about:

• Why behaviour is often a symptom of unmet emotional needs, not defiance
• How to move away from reactive parenting and become more proactive
• What “attachment-first parenting” actually looks like in everyday life
• How to set firm, calm boundaries without yelling or being harsh
• What to do when your child is pushing limits, melting down, or acting out
• Why emotional outbursts are a sign your child needs support, not control
• How to support your child through big emotions without escalating the situation
• Practical strategies to help your child build resilience and emotional regulation
• Simple self-care tools to help you stay calm and respond instead of react

Todd Sarner is a licensed psychotherapist, a parenting coach and the director of Transformative Parenting. Mentored by Dr. Gordon Neufeld and trained by leading relationship experts Dr. Sue Johnson and Dr. Stan Tatkin, Todd helps parents strengthen connection, improve emotional regulation, and address behaviour challenges using practical, attachment-based strategies. His signature Transformative Parenting Process Intensive (TPPI) has become a lifeline for thoughtful parents who’ve “tried everything” but still find themselves stuck in daily battles. Todd is the author of The Calm & Connected Parent: An Attachment-First Guide to Raising Resilient Kids in the Age of Screens and AI.

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