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Back to EpisodesElana Auerbach: The Intimacy Practice That Fixed Our Sex Life #189
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What happens when a Wall Street career, a loveless marriage, and one powerful medicine journey collide? You get Elana Auerbach, sensuality educator and author of The Sure Thing: A Pleasure Practice to Revive the Spark, and she is the real deal. Leah and Willow sit down with Elana to unpack how she went from living a life that looked perfect on paper to discovering deliberate orgasm, building a weekly pleasure practice with her partner of 25 years, and helping couples everywhere trade resentment for genuine erotic connection. If desire discrepancy, low motivation, or years of built-up relationship gunk have been running your sex life, this episode is the reset button you didn't know you needed.
EPISODE HIGHLIGHTS
- From Wall Street to priesthood, Elana's journey out of a loveless marriage and into a life built around pleasure is the kind of origin story that makes you want to blow up your own conveyor belt.
- Deliberate orgasm, orgasmic meditation, pussy stroking as meditation — Leah breaks down the Morehouse roots of this practice and why it still works, controversy aside.
- Responsive desire is the concept that will change how you think about your sex life. You don't need to be in the mood first. You just need to start.
- Elana and her partner struggled with desire discrepancy for 12 years before one scheduled weekly practice flipped everything. Here's exactly how she finally invited him in.
- Your wild sensual self is not gone, she's just waiting for a canvas. Elana started skiing and training for her black belt in aikido in her 50s. That's what a pleasure practice can unlock.
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