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187 Surviving with Laughter: Angela Nissel Talks Hospice and Healing

Host Marie Betcher, a former hospice nurse, interviews writer and memoirist Angela Nissel about her book "Good Grief: Pass the Bread, Mom is Dead" and her mother's end-of-life journey. Angela describes a complicated, achievement-focused relationship with her RN mother, who hid advanced breast cancer and feared judgment for "giving up." Angela brought her to Los Angeles, expecting more treatment, but a doctor recommended hospice; her mother felt relief and was on hospice about six weeks. Angela shares what caregiving taught her, including learning to "just be her daughter," navigating pain medication fears, misconceptions that hospice hastens death, a brief end-of-life rally, and the value of dignity, trust-building, and services like 24/7 care and music therapy. She says hospice became their best, most connected time together and writing later helped her talk about death and grief.

00:00 Welcome and Disclaimer

00:35 Meet Angela Nissel

03:08 A Complicated Mother Daughter Bond

04:54 Caregiving Lessons in Hospice

07:53 Cancer Progression and Hospice Decision

10:26 Nurse Identity and Letting Go

11:55 Her Nursing Career and NICU Work

14:33 Grief Writing and Dark Humor

16:21 Siblings and Hiding Illness

19:24 Changing the Fight Cancer Narrative

22:12 Comfort Meds and Hospice Myths

25:21 Terminal Rally and 24 7 Care

29:44 Inside the Book and Hospice Journals

32:09 Final Reflections and Goodbye