Episode Details

If you've been saying "I'm trying to recover" for months or years, this episode will completely change how you approach your healing journey.

Today we're diving into the science behind why the phrase "I'm trying" is literally programming your brain for partial commitment—and why that guarantees you'l stay stuck. This isn't about willpower or motivation; it's about understanding how your language creates neural pathways that either support or sabotage your recovery.

In this game-changing episode, you'll discover:

• The neuroscience behind why "trying" keeps you in limbo
• How decision defaulting protects you from commitment (and healing)
• Why your undernourished brain struggles with decisive action
• The trauma response component that makes decisions feel dangerous
• Two powerful exercises to shift from trying to deciding
• Real client stories of transformation through decisive language

Warning: This episode will make you uncomfortable with your own excuses—and that's exactly the point.

Decision defaulting: When you avoid making definitive choices because not deciding feels safer than deciding "wrong."

Sound familiar?

• "I'm trying to eat more"
• "I'm trying to stop restricting"
• "I'm trying to get better"
• "I'm thinking about getting help"

Every time you say "I'm trying," you're leaving yourself an escape route. You're keeping one foot in and one foot out, protecting yourself from the vulnerability of full commitment.

The raw truth: Trying is just a socially acceptable way of avoiding responsibility for your choices.

Dr. Carol Dweck's research shows: The words we use create neural pathways that either support or sabotage our goals. When we use tentative language like "trying," we're literally programming our brains for partial commitment.

What your brain hears:

• "I'm tr