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You’re ready to throw in the towel, but you feel torn. You think, “I want to quit” but that seems terrible. What does that say about you if you just walk away? Torturous thoughts creep in like leaving is a huge sign of weakness. Or that you don’t have what it takes to stick with something.

But what if that urge to walk away isn’t a weakness at all? What if it’s your inner wisdom trying to get your attention?

Quitter Is the Wrong Label

Labeling yourself a quitter might not be valid. Sometimes a situation simply isn’t a good fit, or the timing is off. The opportunity might not be for your highest good, and perhaps something better is waiting once you become available. But how do you know the difference?

Here’s the honest answer – it depends. No blanket statement works for every situation. This is a place where trusting yourself and your inner knowing is essential.

Think about if you’re the kind of person who is always chasing the newest thing, abandoning what you’re working on for the latest shiny object. That might be a sign to hang in a bit longer and give what you’re doing a fair shake.

On the other hand, maybe you’re the type who holds on longer than makes sense because of security, loyalty, or a sense of duty. Perhaps you have fear about letting go. You have plenty of stick-to-itiveness, maybe too much for your own good.

Sticking with something and seeing it through does build a sense of certainty that you gave it a fair shot. It can develop strength and follow-through.

Yet, sometimes you need to leave because a better opportunity is waiting. It could be one you’ll miss if you stay too long in a place that isn’t right for you.

Questions Worth Asking

Before making the call to stay or go, take time to reflect and ask yourself:

• Have I really given this my all?
• Do I want to quit because I’m bored?
• Do I want to leave because I fear it won’t work out?
• Am I recognizing a pattern that’s worth examining?
• Did I just lose steam on this idea?
• Am I hitting my head against a wall and need to walk away?
• Am I being stubborn and hanging in there because I don’t know what else to do?
• Is this situation eroding my self-confidence and making me feel smaller?

Your answers will tell you a great deal. And when you’ve tried everything, talked to experts, friends, family, and adjusted your approach, but things still aren’t moving forward, that’s important information.

It can be a sign that what you’re working on is out of alignment with your highest good, no matter h