Episode Details

I’m sharing a bonus episode from my appearance on The Visibility Standard with Jazzmyn Proctor. We talked about modern friendship and all the strange new tensions that come with living so much of our lives online.

From expecting friends to endlessly support our businesses on social media (and the resentment when they watch but don't 'like'), to replacing real connection with memes and endless scrolling, this conversation digs into the gray areas of adult friendship right now. We also talked about reciprocity, forgiveness, making actual plans with friends, and why maintaining friendships requires more intentionality than ever. Jazzmyn brought such thoughtful questions to this discussion, brought such thoughtful questions to this discussion, and I was excited to answer for a change.

In this episode, we discuss:

• Why your friends are not automatically your audience, followers, or marketing team
• The difference between online reciprocity and real-life friendship reciprocity
• How social media can quietly distort friendship expectations
• Why sending memes is not the same as maintaining a friendship
• The importance of scheduling time with friends—even when it feels inconvenient
• How forgiveness and assuming the best help friendships last longer
• Building friendships through online spaces without confusing them for instant intimacy
• Concerns about AI, ChatGPT, and what happens when people stop practicing real human connection

Links mentioned:

• Learn more about Jazzmyn
• Jazzmyn on TikTok and Instagram (both @jazzmynproctor)
• Jazzmyn's episode on Dear Nina was one of my top of 2025: "Episode #151: "Myths Around Adult Friendships"
• Harlan Cohen on Dear Nina: Episode #143: "The Law of Rejection in Friendships"
• Dear Nina episode #139: "How to Start a Podcast"

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