Episode Details
Back to Episodes
Four Pillars That Transform Conflict and Pain Into Deeper Intimacy
Description
Shownotes
-
How to transform difficult moments in a relationship into turning points
-
What distinguishes an abusive relationship from a partner with trauma
-
How reclaiming your sexuality can take your partnership to a new level
-
The four pillars that have helped Aubrey and Brian move through challenges
-
The one question to ask yourself when you feel triggered by your partner
-
What makes conflict the same as rebuilding your muscles at the gym
Bio
Brian Butts and Aubrey Slaver are relational and shadow alchemists devoted to the art of sacred partnership. Blending parts work, archetypal awareness, and practical communication tools, they have navigated religious deconstruction, addiction, separation, and infidelity and have come out on the other side loving each other more than they ever thought possible. They use radical honesty, safety, and conscious communication as the pillars of their growth.
They are currently launching a relationship podcast and developing a framework to help couples transform conflict into connection. With a shared mission to normalize raw, honest relating, they are devoted to helping couples deepen intimacy, decode their stories, create safety, and cultivate a more alive and fulfilling union.
You can follow Aubrey, Brian, and their shared work on Instagram. Follow Layla!
🌐 Website
🎧 Listen on Apple Podcasts
🎶 Listen on Spotify
💋 MOOD Sexy Plant Activated Supplements
🔥 For Men: Men's Sexual Mastery
🌹 Obliss: The Sexual Masterclass for Women
Timestamps
00:01:20 - Guest introduction
00:02:43 - Layla's advice for staying in a relationship that's incredibly hard
00:05:42 - Discover the VITA™ Sex, Love and Relationship Coaching Certification
00:10:52 - Aubrey and Brian talk about what shaped their early idea of marriage
00:14:28 - Brian shares his mother wound and how it created deep conflict
00:19:52 - A joyful relationship enhances your happiness, it doesn't create it
00:23:00 - The shift for Aubrey that helped her find a way out of constant conflict
00:27:46 - Layla explores what a narcissistic defense mechanism is
00:31:52 - How to transform difficult moments in a relationship into turning points
00:36:20 - Why separating allowed Aubrey and Brian to become themselves again
00:37:59 - [AD] MOOD Sex Magic - Podcast coupon code + 2 free sticks: [MOOD Se