Episode Details

You've done the work. You've been in therapy, read the books, and you can name what happened to you. So why doesn't it feel like enough?

That gap between understanding your story and actually feeling different in your body has a reason. And it's not because you haven't tried hard enough. It's because childhood emotional neglect creates a very specific kind of wound that requires a very specific kind of repair. In this episode we're going past the recognition and getting into what that repair actually looks like and how to start creating it in your real life.

In this episode we cover:

• What implicit emotional learnings are and how to recognize the ones that may still be running in the background of your relationships
• Why insight alone often doesn't move them and what the brain actually needs instead
• The three step sequence that allows the brain to revise an old emotional learning at its root
• Why CEN survivors often have no discrete memory to target and how the implicit learning tends to surface instead
• How corrective experiences can happen in therapy through co-regulation, rupture and repair, EMDR, and somatic work
• How they can also happen outside of therapy in your relationships, your body, and your daily life
• What interoception is and why rebuilding it is a core part of this work
• How to start recognizing a corrective experience when it's happening because it often doesn't feel the way you might expect
• What hyperindependence has to do with all of this
• Why animals, nature, and routine can be legitimate corrective experiences for people who feel isolated right now
• What earned secure attachment is and what the research suggests about getting there
• What tends to get in the way, including shame, and what active receiving looks like in practice

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