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The Leg Your Relationship Lost Without You Noticing with Dr. Margaret Cochran
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Something quietly disappeared from your relationship — and chances are, you didn't even see it go.
It wasn't the big blowup. It wasn't a dramatic turning point. It was something smaller, slower, and way more dangerous. In this episode, Katie sits down with Dr. Margaret Cochran — transpersonal psychologist, licensed clinical social worker, and 25-year clinical veteran — to talk about the one thing long-term couples lose first, and why losing it puts everything else at risk.
Dr. Cochran introduces her 3 P's Framework — Passion, Play, and Productivity — the three legs holding your relationship up while life presses down from above. Most couples assume they're solid because two legs are still standing. But that missing third leg? It's been gone longer than you think.
You'll walk away knowing how to actually check in on your relationship's health, what renegotiating your "relationship contract" looks like at every stage, and the exact language to use when life gets messy, hard conversations can't wait, or one of you is carrying way too much.
This isn't about finding more time. It's about finally using it differently.
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