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207: Letting Go of Control: Creating a Calmer Path to a Fulfilling Private Practice
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There’s a kind of stuckness that can show up even when everything looks “ready” on paper—the numbers work, the plan is there, and yet the decision still feels hard to make. I see this a lot when therapists are considering the move from W2 work into full-time private practice.
In my coaching conversation with Dr. Amber Vernon, a recent grad of the Money Skills for Therapists program, we explore what happens when the hesitation isn’t about money skills or financial planning—but something deeper. Even when the path looks clear, there can still be a sense of activation, doubt, or what she calls “squirreliness” that makes it hard to move forward.
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When the Numbers Make Sense but the Decision Still Feels Hard
Sometimes the stuckness isn’t about strategy—it’s about what the decision represents. You can have the income stability, the emergency fund, the private practice already working… and still feel a pull to stay where things feel more predictable. What I see here is how control, perfectionism, and financial anxiety can keep you circling even when you’re ready. When your nervous system is activated, it can start to question everything—your plan, your niche, even the sustainability of your therapy business. And at that point, more data doesn’t help.
That “squirreliness” isn’t a sign that you’re doing something wrong—it’s more often a sign that you’re stepping into something unfamiliar.
Moving Through Uncertainty When You’re Already “Ready”
Even when the financial planning and logistics are in place, the decision can still feel unsettled—especially when control, identity, and uncertainty are all in the mix.
(00:04:59) Deciding on career transition
(00:07:28) Discussing work challenges and options
(00:12:48) Avoiding future decisions now
(00:15:39) Navigating personal decision impacts
(00:25:54) Overcoming fear to take action
(00:26:51) Assessing current intellectual interests
(00:30:44) Choosing work that excites you
(00:35:18) Exploring varied career paths
(00:36:37) Deciding when to move on
(00:40:21) Reflecting on chaotic energy
(00:43:01) Embracing diverse skills and strategies
Letting Your Path Be More Flexible Than You Expected
One of the shifts in this conversation is moving away from the idea that there’s one “right” version of private practice. For some therapists, the goal isn’t a single, fixed path—it’s building a career that allows for variety, different income streams, and evolving interests.
When you’re good at a lot of things, decision-making can feel harder, not easier. But that doesn’t mean you’re off track—it just means your path might be more flexible than you expected.
Instead of waiting until everything feels certain, you can start by taking small steps, testing what feels energizing, and letting that guide your next move. You don’t have to