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Back to EpisodesWhy You Still Feel Misunderstood (Even When You’re Listening) | Christine Miles | Becoming Series
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What if the biggest communication problem in your life isn’t what people are saying…
but what you think it means?
In this episode, I’m joined by Christine Miles, a pioneer in listening intelligence, to unpack why smart, caring people still miss each other—and how that one miss can quietly turn into conflict, distance, and disconnection.
We talk about the “listening gap”—the space between what’s said and what’s actually understood—and why it shows up everywhere:
in relationships, leadership, emails, and everyday conversations.
Christine breaks down why listening isn’t just about your ears—it’s about your brain.
Your memories, your stories, and your patterns are shaping what you hear… often without you realizing it.
This conversation goes deeper than communication tips.
It’s about awareness in the moment.
Because if you can catch what’s happening underneath…
you can choose differently.
Inside this episode:
• Why we react to meaning, not words
• The simple shift from “I understand” to “Let me see if I get you…”
• How interruption can actually help—when it’s done to understand
• A powerful way to see your own listening patterns in real time
If you want better relationships, stronger communication, and fewer misunderstandings—this is for you.
You pause.
You listen.
You choose.
You build momentum.
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