Episode Details

This episode is a little different—and very fun—because it’s packed with specific, creative ways to spend time with friends that go beyond the usual walk, coffee, or dinner at a restaurant.

I’m joined by Ashlee Gadd and Katie Blackburn of the Coffee + Crumbs community and authors of the new book, You're In Good Company: The Gift of Friendship, Motherhood, and Showing Up. Ashlee and Katie came ready with ideas you can steal: low-pressure, fun ways to gather with friends. These are not big, complicated events. But they ARE creative!

What I love about this conversation is that it’s both practical and honest. Yes, you’ll walk away with ideas you can use, but we also get into what makes these gatherings work in the first place—shared effort, showing up, and being thoughtful about the kind of connection you’re trying to create.

We also get into a harder element of getting together with friends, which is knowing there might be people who feel left out. This is an issue at every age! We discuss balancing "everyone is invited" with wanting smaller, more intimate hangouts where you can actually talk and be vulnerable. There's and time and place for both kinds of plans in our lives.

We dicussed:

• Why specific plans (not vague ones) make friendship hangouts more consistent
• Simple, low-key gathering ideas you can copy right away (you will have to listen to the episode to get them!)
• Sharing the responsibility of planning so it doesn’t fall on one person
• The difference between quick “micro” check-ins and deeper time together
• How to think about group size, intimacy, and inclusivity without overthinking it

LINKS MENTIONED: 

• Ashlee and Katie's book, You're In Good Company: The Gift of Friendship, Motherhood, and Showing Up
• Coffee + Crumbs on Substack
• Episode 192: Why Plans With Friends Don't Happen and How to Fix It
• "Good Intentions Won't Sustain a Friendship"
• Episode 180: Mean Mom Culture and Relational Aggression with Dr. Noelle Santorelli
• Episode 181: Exclusion and the Power to Build New Friendships with Amy Weatherly

Meet Ashlee and Katie:

Ashlee Gadd is a mother, writer, photographer, and founder of Coffee + Crumbs. She is the editor and contributor of You’re In Good Company and the author of Create Anyway. She has spent the last ten years helping mothers harness their creative talents into powerful storytelling at Coffee + Crumbs—a beautiful online space where motherhood and art intersect. Find Ashlee on Instagram @ashleegadd.

Katie Blackburn is a writer, teacher, and a lifelong learner. She's also a single mother to six kids, making her life very loud and surely impossible without the amazing grace of God. Katie is the author of Gluing the Cracks: Reflections on Disability,Motherhood and Hope; The Very Best Baseball Game, and Grace Will B