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"I'm Fine": When It's Armour, When It's Honest, and How to Tell
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When you say I'm fine, is it armour or is it honest? Both, depending on the day. And sometimes fine is genuinely the right answer, because not every conversation is one you want.
Every carer, every encounter, however small. I take notice about one time in twenty. There is nothing wrong with the armour. My nan had a way of dealing with people who came in moaning. And there is the master whose final teaching came years later, once the student was ready to hear it. Try a different answer once and see what room it opens up.
One thing to try: Answer once today with actually, today is a hard one. See what happens next.
In this episode
- (0:03) No fluff, no quick fixes
- (2:49) One in twenty times I actually take notice
- (5:12) Sometimes I'm fine is the best answer there is
- (10:28) We would lose all hope without it
- (12:45) Going in and moaning to my nan
- (15:11) The final teaching, understood years later
- (17:47) Messaging a friend and saying I am feeling emotional
- (20:16) Try another answer. Today is a hard one
With gratitude to
Alex, Nina, Zoe, A Ma, Kevin, Katarzyna, Deborah, Christopher and Ariel. And MumMik's Cleaning Services, for buying a course this week.
The companion meditation: When Anxiety Visits: A Quick Meditation for Anxious Moments
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Steven
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