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Hey Lifers!

We have a very special guest in the studio today! It’s Sam Fischer. You might know him as the man behind This City, one of the most viral songs of the TikTok era. We know him as Britt's personal wedding singer. He wrote and recorded a surprise wedding song for Britt and Ben!

Sam is currently in Australia opening for Guy Sebastian on his national arena tour, and he's got a debut independent album on the way! We start with some industry chat where Sam explains how things work with music artists behind the scenes with record labels, pay, royalties and what it’s like to go independent!

Then we get into your questions!

MY MUM IS DATING SOMEONE I GENUINELY CANNOT STAND AND I DON'T KNOW HOW MUCH LONGER I CAN FAKE IT
My parents divorced five years ago after my dad had an affair. It was devastating for our whole family but we got through it. My mum spent a couple of years on her own and she seemed like she was really finding herself again, which was beautiful to watch. About a year ago she started dating someone new and I really tried to like him, but there is something about him that just doesn't sit right with me. He's not outwardly awful, he's never been rude to me or my siblings, but he talks over her, he makes little digs disguised as jokes, and I've noticed she apologises a lot when he's around in a way she never used to. I've gently tried to bring it up once and she got really defensive and told me I just wasn't used to seeing her with someone new. Maybe she's right. Do I keep saying something or do I zip it and keep my opinions to myself?

I SLEPT WITH MY BEST FRIEND'S EX AND IT'S EATING ME ALIVE
My best friend and her ex broke up about two years ago. It wasn't a great relationship, he wasn't particularly good to her, and when they split she was upset but I think she knew deep down that it would be for the best. They've had zero contact since. A few months ago I ran into him at a party. We had been drinking and I guess one thing led to another. He ended up stumbling back to my apartment and we had sex. In the morning I kind of expected it to feel awkward and him to high tail it out of there but he didn’t. It felt weirdly comfortable and he stayed and hung out for a few hours. It's happened a few more times since and I think I might be starting to get the feels a bit. I haven't told my best friend and the longer I leave it the worse it gets. She's one of the most important people in my life. I genuinely don't think she has feelings for him anymore but I also know that doesn't necessarily mean she'll be okay with it. When is the right time to tell her and is there even a right way to do it?

PARTNER WANTS ME TO REMOVE UPPER LIP HAIR
What are your thoughts on your partner asking you to remove your upper lip hair. My partner asks me every month to remove my upper lip hair. It takes him about 2 weeks to notice it has grown back after I get it threaded off. If he wants it removed should he pay for it? Are our partners allowed to ask us to remove our facial/body hair?

IS IT TOO LATE TO START OVER?
I'm 34 and I have spent the last decade building a career in marketing that I genuinely do not care about. I took the job at 24 because I’d finished my degree, it paid pretty well and I didn't really know what else to do and then I just kept going because that's what you do. I've been promoted, I earn decent money but I dread Monday mornings with a consistency that I think at this point is probably worth paying attention to. What I actually want to do is work in film or TV probably in some type of production role. I've just never had the guts to try to get into it. The problem is every time I look at job listings or internship opportunities I'm looking at roles filled by 22 year olds and I feel like I'm already a decade behind. I know 34 isn't old. I know that intellectually. But it feels ol