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I’m going to list out some different kinds of people. I’ll tell you what they all have in common in a second— but you can guess first for fun if you want.

* People with chronic illness

* People with PTSD

* People with Complex PTSD

* Trauma Survivors of any kind

* Disabled people (physical and/or mental)

* Parents

* Caregivers

* People who are grieving

* People who don’t have housekeepers

* People who don’t have laundry in their building

* Eating Disorder survivors who love or hate meal prep

* People who commute

* People who work from home

* Astronauts

* Oil pastel artists

* Toddlers who are teething

Did you guess? Ready to hear the answer?

Time moves differently in each and every one of their lives.

Someone doing a Broadway show has a different 24 hours in a day than someone working on a cruise.

ER doctors have a different 24 hours than podiatrists.

Our lives are all different. It may sound redundant, but it’s true.

This simple fact bears repeating, every time a stranger tries to tell me I have the same 24 hours as Beyoncé.

I do not have the same 24 hours as Beyoncé, and shedoes not have the same 24 hours as me!

At no point during her 24 hours can she run to the corner and buy a banana on a crowded New York City block.

At no point during my 24 hours can I outsource all the household tasks and life admin that take time away from my career.

We have different privileges. Our lives are designed differently.

I consider it a privilege to go wherever I want without paparazzi.

Beyoncé gets the privilege of being Queen B and performing all of our favorite songs, running an empire, using her wealth for good, and being a goddess, diva, and cowgirl all in one.

God, I love Beyoncé

I digress.

I do not have the same 24 hours in a day as Beyoncé

Neither do you.

And that’s okay.

Stop shaming yourself into accomplishing more or using your time more constructively, or whatever it is you’re doing to yourself when you tell the lie that you have the same 24 hours a day as everyone else.

You’re not lazy. You’re not deficient. You’re doing your best with the resources available to you and the energy in your body.

Maybe use a few minutes inside your 24 hours to remind yourself of that today.

I myself am going to use a few minutes of my 24 hours to listen to some Beyoncé.

Further Reading/Listening:

My ancestor's wildest dream is me doing dishes listening to Beyoncé