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Why do so many children feel invisible, even in homes filled with love?Today, on the official launch day of my new children's book, You Matter, Luma, we are diving into the heart of why "mattering" is the most important foundation we can build for the next generation.Joining me is Dr. Gordon Flett, the world’s leading researcher on mattering and author of the groundbreaking paper on "Anti-Mattering." In this conversation, we reveal a startling disconnect: while only 8% of parents think their child might feel they don’t matter, nearly 35% of youth report feeling insignificant or uncertain of their worth.Dr. Flett explains why mattering is a "foundational human need" and how we can bridge this gap to protect our children's mental health.This conversation builds on the You Matter series—featuring leading thinkers like Barry Schwartz, Rebecca Newberger Goldstein, Daniel Coyle, Sonja Lyubomirsky, Harry Reis, and Paul Eastwick—and arrives at a powerful conclusion:Mattering isn’t a luxury. It’s a core human need.If you’ve ever questioned your place, struggled with invisibility, or wondered how to help others feel seen—this episode offers both scientific clarity and human hope.Passion Struck is the #1 alternative health and personal growth podcast dedicated to human flourishing and the science of mattering. It is ranked #1 on FeedSpot’s list of the Top Passion Podcasts on the Web and is consistently recognized among the world's top business and mindset podcasts.Check the full show notes here: https://passionstruck.com/feeling-like-you-matter-gordon-flett/Download a Free Companion Reflection Guide: https://www.theignitedlife.net/p/you-matter-luma-intrinsic-worthConnect with John (keynotes, books, podcast): https://linktr.ee/John_R_MilesGet the New Children’s Book You Matter, Luma: https://youmatterluma.com/Learn More About Gordon Flett: https://www.yorku.ca/lamarsh/gord-flett/In This Episode, You Will Learn

• Mattering is foundational, not optional. It underpins mental health, relationships, and identity.
• The Difference Between Love and Mattering: Why a child can be loved but still feel like they don't count.
• Feeling unseen is deeply painful. It can manifest as shame, withdrawal, or a belief that one’s presence doesn’t count.
• Childhood is the critical window. Early signals of attention and care shape lifelong self-worth.
• Small moments matter most. Being noticed, listened to, and valued creates a lasting psychological impact.
• Mattering can be created. Through attention, service, and connection, we can restore it in ourselves and others.

Support the MovementEvery human deserves to feel seen, valued, and like they matter. Wear it. Live it. Show it. https://StartMattering.comDisclaimerThe Passion Struck podcast is for educational and entertainment purposes only. The views and opinions expressed by guests are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of Passion Struck or its affiliates. This podcast is not a substitute for professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment from a licensed physician, therapist, or other qualified professional.

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